I met a really nice guy back in January, shortly after my birthday. He approached me.
We started out hot and heavy (as usual). Our attraction was very strong. He said the right things, I said the right things, and we had a great time. Then, suddenly, without warning: all I hear is crickets. The phone stops ringing and the texting begins.
Suddenly, he’s so busy. The 5-year-old daughter he had while we were hot and heavy suddenly needed his attention. His mother suddenly needed him for everything. Every time I wanted to see him, it was always, “My mom needs me to… (fill in the blank with whatever excuse you want because I could give a fat’s dogs ass at this point).”
I confronted him about the cold shoulder treatment and he told me that he felt we were “moving too fast.” Anyway, so I backed away for about 6 weeks. During that 6 week hiatus, he texted and called me a total of 2 times. He was just “checking with” me to make sure I was “doing okay.” He let me know that although he hadn’t called, he was still thinking of me. At this point, I was just shocked, but relieved he called.
Weeks go by and I have basically moved on. Then, one morning at 8 a.m., he calls and blurts out all this information. He had some sort of catharsis. It’s as if he was seeking some sort of redemption. “I’ve been seeing my ex-girlfriend the whole time we have known each other. I couldn’t tell you because I thought you wouldn’t stick around.”
Blah, blah, blah, and 3 paragraphs later, he wants to break up with her because he feels emotionally abused by her. Blah, blah, blah, he doesn’t want to lose access to his daughter because the girlfriend holds the little girl sort of “hostage.”
The bottom line is this: I do love him because his is wonderful and we have a bond. But he needs to take me off layaway! He picked me off the shelf, with a little money down so that I felt like I shouldn’t see anyone else. He got me involved and allowed a love to blossom over time. He has held me there ever since. You know, in a store, you can only hold the merchandise for so long without getting out. You are interrupting business by not claiming items that can be purchased by a serious customer. He needs to either piss or get off the pot. He’s trying to keep me “in the loop” with his occasional phone calls and morning greetings through text. What does he want from me? Have you ever been put on layaway?